Homage to the Undefined: A Pride Month Reflection

Blog post written by: Undefined.

Pride Month is a time when many people celebrate who they are with clarity and confidence. But not everyone feels like they fit neatly into a label, flag, or category. Some people are still exploring their identity, while others feel that none of the available terms fully describe their experience. This reflection is for those who feel undefined—whether in gender, sexuality, or relationships. If you don’t see yourself represented or named in the usual ways, know that you still belong.

Homage to the Undefined

If your experience as a sexually, relationally, or gender-diverse person often lives between or beyond the commonly recognized LGBTQIA+ identifiers, you are seen for exactly where you are.

If “queer” feels both too expansive and not quite right—if it resonates intellectually but not personally—you’re not alone. And if every option feels like an approximation, like standing in a house that isn’t quite yours or in clothes that don’t quite fit, you are still seen.

If the words available feel incomplete or limiting, and none of the prefixes like “Pan,” “Non,” or “A” seem to reflect your full experience, that, too, is valid. You are seen for exactly where you are.

If the “plus” at the end of the culture’s alphabet was meant to make space for you, but instead felt like a footnote—like a nod without curiosity—then your discomfort makes sense. The “plus” is not a sufficient sentiment for who a beloved person is. You are not an afterthought. You are seen.

If you’ve held back during introductions, not because of fear, but because you’re still figuring out how to name something so deeply lived—it doesn’t make your experience less real. It makes it honest. You’re not behind. You’re becoming. You’re seen.

If affirming others means meeting them in their own evolving understanding, even if nothing has been settled yet, then you understand something essential about human dignity. And that same dignity belongs to you. You are seen.

If unease washes over you at the thought of being miscategorized the moment you speak up—if you feel the pressure to explain, to correct, to clarify—know that this exhaustion is not yours to carry alone. You are wise to the risks. You are seen.

If your experience shares ground with those who wave Pride flags but your own version remains unnamed—or if the label exists but doesn’t feel like something you want to wear—you are not outside the circle. You are seen.

If “Pride” feels too loud for your story, if you find yourself wanting to offer your truth gently with a disclaimer, that quietness doesn’t disqualify you from the celebration. You don’t need boldness to belong.

If “Happy Pride” feels like a phrase you’re still learning to try on, and you’d rather whisper it, or even just feel it quietly from the sidelines, know that you’re still part of this. There is room for your volume, your timing, your tone.

This is an homage to the undefined. To those who live in-between, whose stories are in progress, whose identifiers may never become identities—or may someday. To those who don’t fit the headline but still carry the story.

You are not less.
You are not late.
You are not lost.
You are seen.
Exactly where you are.

And you belong. 

Please know that TheraPride raises its Pride flag high and loud for people to come, sit, and be seen. We will be definitive—but not less expansive—for you to be exactly where you are. 

Blog post written by: Undefined.

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